Monday, 20 July 2015

Importance of Premarital Counselling

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* Z-¼-Xn-IÄ X-½n-ep-Å B-i-b-hn-\n-a-b-¯n-sâ A-`mhw.
* ]-¦m-fn-sb A-h-K-Wn-¡Â.
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* ssew-Kn-Iamb s]m-cp-¯-t¡-Sp-Ifpw ]-c-kv-]-c-hn-izm-k-¡p-d-hpw.
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* im-co-cn-Ihpw am-\-kn-Ihpw ssew-Kn-I-hpam-b A-Xn-{I-aw.
* {]-iv-\-§Ä ]-cn-l-cn¡mt\m ssI-Imcyw sN¿m-t\m D-Å I-gn-hnÃmbv-a.
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* Ip-Spw-_-s¯ ap-t¶m-«p \-bn-¡p-¶-Xn D-­m-Ip-¶ hn-`n-¶am-b {]-Xo-£-IÄ.
* km-¼¯n-I {]-iv-\-§Ä.
* _u-²n-Iamb s]m-cp-¯-t¡-Sp-Ifpw ImÀ-¡-iy-kz-`m-h-hpw.
* a-t\m-tcm-K-§Ä.
* a-X-]-c-am-b hn-izm-k-§-fn-se hy-Xym-kw.
* kw-kv-Im-c-¯n-sebpw Po-hn-X-co-Xn-bn-sebpw ssh-cp-²y§Ä.

b-Ym-k-a-bw H-cp-an-¨n-cp-¶p kw-km-cn-t¨m NÀ-¨-sN-bv-tXm ]-cn-l-cn-¡m-hp-¶ {]-iv-\-§-fm-Wp Iq-Sp-X h-j-fm-¡n thÀ-]n-cn-b-en-sâ h-¡n-te-¡v sIm-s­-¯n-¡p-¶-Xv. \n-Êm-c Im-c-W-§-fp-sS t]-cn-em-Wp `q-cn-`m-Kw t]cpw ]n-cn-bm³ Xo-cp-am-\-sa-Sp-¡p-¶Xv. ]-eÀ-¡pw ]n-cn-bp-¶-Xn AÂ-]w-t]m-epw k-¦-S-an-sÃ-¶-Xm-Wv a-säm-cp h-kv-Xp-X. Po-hn-X-s¯ \n-km-c-h-Xv-I-cn-¡p-I-bm-Wv C-hÀ. H-cp Zn-h-kw t]m-epw H-cp-an-¨v Po-hn-¨n-«n-Ãm-¯ B-fp-IÄ-t]m-epw hn-hm-l tam-N-\-¯n-\v H-cp-§p-¶-Im-e-am-Wn-Xv. hn-Zym-`ym-k-]-c-am-bpw km-aq-ln-I-am-bpw am-ä-ap-­m-sb-¦n-epw `-{Z-am-sbm-cp Ip-Spw-_m-´-co-£w sIm-­p-t]m-Im-\p-Å ]-Iz-X- ]-eÀ-¡p-an-à F-¶-Xm-Wv C-¯-cw \o-¡-§Ä sX-fn-bn-¡p-¶Xv. AXp-sIm-­p-Xs¶, sNdn-b a-Õ-c-]-co-£-IÄ¡p-t]mepw h³-X-¿m-sd-Sp-¸v \-S-¯p-¶-hÀ hn-hm-l-Po-hn-Xw F-¶ hen-b ]-co-£-¡p-th-­n am-\-kn-Iam-b F-´p-X-¿m-sd-Sp-¸v \-S-¯p-¶p-sh-¶p kz-bw Nn-´n-¨p-t\m-¡p-¶Xpw Cu- A-h-k-c-¯n \-¶m-bn-cn-¡pw.

Friday, 3 April 2015

Child, Adult and Family Counselling - Changanacherry

Consolace now offers professional counselling services at Changanassery.

Child Counselling – Are your kids suffering from Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder problems, Emotional Imbalances, or Other problems? Letting your child talk to a Counsellor can reveal hidden reasons that lead to such problems. Remove the obstacles in your child's healthy development and help them develop into a great person. Child Counselling by Consolace helps you identify the problems your child face and get practical ideas to help your child.

Adolescent Counselling – Is your teenager showing emotional imbalances, spending too much time with Mobile Phone or Internet, or distancing themselves away from you? There may be more problems than you imagine. Let them talk to a Professional Counsellor who can identify the real issues behind Adolescent Behaviour – Emotional Imbalances, Difficulty Concentrating on Studies, Internet and Mobile abuse, etc.

Family Counselling – Is your family happy? If you feel your family is about to break down, you can bring happiness back – simply by talking. Find the right person to talk to. You will find the tensions between husband and wife, the stress happening among the family members, and the problems arising out of nowhere have professional help. Let your family stay united and happy. That is the most valuable thing you can get in your life.

Consolace Counselling services are available at Changanassery. 
To fix an appointment, call 9388183153

Thursday, 19 March 2015

Why Family Courts in Kerala Have Counsellors and What they Do to Troubled Relations

Family courts in Kerala have family counsellors. Read on to find out why.

Divorce or ending of a relationship is not a happy experience for anybody. Kerala families and society see divorce as a taboo. And, ending relationship is not a quick solution for any problems. Divorce is not a permanent solution. In addition, it is a good thing if marriages started on a happy note can stay that way.

Divorce prevention counselling is designed to help couples keep their married life happy for years to come. In that sense, the family counsellors at family courts in Kerala do a great service to young couples. Even if you are on the verge of divorce, you can iron out the differences and restart your family life – as it is a new life.

Counseling ordered by Family Courts also serves another purpose – giving important legal information about family assets, child custody, etc. People don't have a clear idea about how assets will be divided, who gets the custody of children, and other important parts related to divorce. With family counseling ordered by family courts, such issues are solved to a great extent.

People are Reluctant Seeing a Counsellor

There are several reasons why people feel bad about seeing a counsellor. For some, it is discomfort  talking personal details to a total stranger. For others, it is about the taboo of seeking help on family matters. Whatever the reason, people try to avoid counselling – even if it is for saving a marriage. However, such reservations are unwarranted and a professional counsellor works according to professional and ethical standards. Your private matters will remain confidential and the details you share won't be used against you.

At times, people are also deterred by incompetent advice by well-meaning friends and relatives. When they see signs of trouble in a family, they'd say things like 'this is a phase' and 'you will get over it'. They are from well-meaning friends. Well-meaning doesn't translate to desirable results. If you want to get over marriage problems, you may need to seek professional help when needed. No, it is not 'just a phase' that 'will pass'. When things go wrong, you need help.

And, it is strategically proven that couples who seek counselling and help reduce the chance of a divorce and they will find happiness within the family. This is one reason why family courts don't allow divorces before advising couples to go through counselling.

Benefits of Seeing a Counsellor

When you see a counsellor and take counselling sessions, you will see marked improvements in relationships. You will experience less panic, less anxiety and less relationship issues. You will feel motivated about leading a happier life than in the past. You will take control over stress, tensions and family issues. You will have better understanding of abusive relationships, and remedies for abuse. Marked improvements in sexuality, quality of life and mindfulness are other benefits of getting the support of a professional counsellor.

You may need only a few sessions of counselling to understand the underlying troubles, learn effective means of handling stressful situations and having a great sense of purpose in life.

Thursday, 12 March 2015

Family Courts in Kerala

Name of Court                                       Office Ph. Nos                            

Family Court Thiruvananthapuram        0471- 2570511
Addl. Family Court Nedumangad          0472- 2800155
Family Court Attingal                            0470- 2629596

Family Court Kollam                              0474-2793950      
Family Court Chavara                             0476-2627979

Family Court Thiruvalla                         0469-2607031
Family Court Pathanamthitta                  0468-2222662

Family Court Allapuzha                          0477-2237046
Family Court Mavelikkara                                  -

Family Court Ettumanoor                       0481-2534386
Family Court Thodupuzha                      0486-221682

Family Court Thrissur                            0487-2360109
Family Court Irinjalakuda                      0480-2830982


Family Court Palakkad                         0491-2552500

Family Court Manjeri                          0483-2737299

Family Court Kozhikkode                    0495-2365235

Family Court Kalpetta                         04936-203630


Family Court Kannur                          0497- 2702073
Family Court Thalasserry                   0490-2323256

Family Court Kasargod                      04994-223478

Wednesday, 7 January 2015

Psychological Problems of Adolesent Children in Kerala

Unlike in the past, today's adolescent girls in Kerala go through various levels of stress. It could be internal (family) or from outsides sources. The adolescent stage is a very precarious phase of life when child goes through various physical and metal transformation. It's a time when parental support and guidance is required.

There's also a rise in delinquent behaviour among adolescent girls in Kerala. In one survey it was reported that lack of parental guidance, involvement, attachment or lack of intimacy is resulting in abnormal among adolescent girls.

Adolescent girls are more prone to stress due to these elements
  • Worries about schoolwork and study
  • Difficulty in studies
  • Bringing up in an unhappy family
  • Sexual or verbal abuse
  • Relationships problems with peers
  • Weight related issues
  • Looks and peer pressure
  • Over exposure to T.V and Internet
  • Parent - Adolescent Relationship

Role of family in building better relationship with adolescent kids
1. As a parent you can approach kids as a friend. Adopt a peaceful and a calm approach in understanding their problems.
2. Don't jump into conclusions or accuse them. Instead show concern, support and most importantly be a good listener
3. Avoid constant supervision of their life - Be it their dressing, about friends or behaviors. In short stop being helicopter mom's
4. Take clues from their words and try to understand the meaning in their words. Don't always take things lightly. Maybe, they are facing problems at school or have some stress from outside which they are not ready to share. If you suspect some problem, you can seek the support of good counsellors.
5. Never, never quarrel in front of your children. It can lead to stress and depression

If need an appointment with a trained counsellor.
Consolace Counselling Services,
Nanthencode, Trivandrum.
Mob: 9388183153
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Sunday, 14 December 2014

Internet Addiction Among Indian Teenagers

About 73% of teenagers in India face problems arising from internet addiction – says a recent study by National Institute of Mental Health and Neurosciences (NIMHANS), Bangalore.

Most children aged from 13 to 17 years who exhibited signs of behavioral problems were found to be addicted to social networks like Facebook, mobile games, etc.

Addiction to internet, social media and multimedia games has the same form as that of substance abuse and addictions to alcohol, tobacco, etc.

Among the several cases of internet addiction, a child started getting seizures because of sleep deprivation due to excess use of Facebook – as case reported from Kochi, Kerala.

Peer-pressure is one important contributing factor to internet addiction. Everyone in the friends circle will be telling experiences of using Facebook, playing mobile games, etc. This puts pressure on young children to imitate others.

Most children brought for counselling exhibit telltale signs of addictions – like spending several hours in closed rooms.

Internet addiction is prevalent not only among children from major cities like Trivandrum, Kochi, Calicut, etc, but also among kids of smaller towns of Kerala.

Help your kids overcome Facebook and Internet Addiction. Psychological Counselling available. Fix an appointment with a trained counsellor.

Consolace Counselling Services,
Nanthencode, Trivandrum.
Mob: 9388183153
Website :

Friday, 5 December 2014

How to Overcome Stress in Married Life

 How to Overcome Stress in Married Life

If you are willing to talk a few minutes to a trained counsellor, you can once again bring happiness back into your life. You can fill your marriage life with thrills and excitement. You can enjoy your life as if it is honeymoon once again.

It is normal to have stress in married life. There can be ego-clashes. Still, you can overcome the perils of stress and once again enjoy happiness in your life.

Communication gaps, failing to identify your partner's needs, and ego clashes are the primary reasons of stress in married life.

In most cases, you have no idea what is wrong in your life. You think you are doing everything in your capacity to make your partner happy. Even then, he/she is not happy at all.

It is in such situations that you need professional help. A trained psychological counselor can easily identify what is amiss in your relationship.

All you need is talk to someone who understands your beliefs, your ideas and your expectations. And, you need to identify what your partner really needs.

You can learn how to respect her in ways you never thought possible. You can learn how communication can become a lot easier if you just listen to his words.

If you learn the tricks that reduce tensions, improve one-on-one communication, promote goodwill, and add passion to life, you will start cherishing all the gifts that life has given you.

To talk to someone who will help you reduce stress, improve communication, and enjoy fullness of life, CALL: 9388183153 now! 

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